I said right at the start of making this blog that I wasn't sure how personal I wanted to make it. I feel like I can be extremely honest here and from the last couple posts you guys have made really interesting comments and I like the discussions we get going, especially on issues that mean a lot to me. So here's what I want to talk about today and please don't be scared. It's romance.
About 8 months ago I broke up with my long term boyfriend. It was my decision and I didn't regret it afterwards. I was living in a different country at the time and I guess I just didn't miss him as much as I should have. That was how I knew. Anyway, this is just background. Literally, since then I've been in a completely 'anti-romance' 'anti-relationship' phase and I've loved it! Except when I watch rom-coms because then I want to be sick over everybody. But generally the freedom and independence and just not having to worry about guys is amazing! This doesn't mean I've not been dating but I guess you could say I have commitment issues. But now, I think I'm growing out of this stage, I'm moving on and you know what? It terrifies me! It's as if I know I would be happy and comfortable in a relationship now but I'm too scared to actively go looking for one. Or something. I'm not quite sure, it's very difficult to articulate.
I know this seems extremely personal but I feel fine about putting it on the internet because it's all so vague. I am still very happy in my situation, however, I do believe that whatever situation you're in you should be happy. Otherwise, you need to change your situation immediately.
I hope it's not too personal, but what are your opinions on relationships/romance? Do you think it's overrated? Could you not live without it?
Hannah
P.S. I may gag at cheesy romantic moments in films but I think deep down, like really deap down, I'm jealous.
Vague yet very honest.
ReplyDeleteI've found that I don't need someone in my life to be happy right now.
I recently got dumped while I was in the hospital being treated for chronic migraines. On the other side of it she wanted to get serious way to fast and I wasn't ready I guess. Why dump me while I'm in the hospital, I have no idea.
It really opened my eyes to how shallow people can be. So I plan on staying single until I find the right person.
It's hard these days, everyone wants something different and most are not willin to compromise or even discuss their intentions. Also not being committed to someone is pretty amazing. Not this social pressure to put what you want to do on the back burner while that person takes your time.
Oh and romantic comedies are a tad hilarious in my opinion.
They portray this impossible perfection that only exist within the world of the film.
Just sharing my thoughts
Jake.
I love personal posts like these! I've been in a similar situation myself, and it's great knowing that others are going through these things as well.
ReplyDeleteLove this post :D I'm cool with you being personal as long as you are.
ReplyDeleteWell, in my humble existence I've never been in a relationship that's lasted more than about two months. Maybe it's down to my immaturity or lack of social skills, but whatever. All I know is that I'm happy with single life, and I do feel quite anti-romantic and independent right now, so I hear'ya girl.
I am worrying about getting to the growing-out-of-it stage though... I accept that it is an inevitable part of my evolution as a person, but I haven't a bloody clue about what the hell I'm gonna do when I get there. With even my greatest efforts, I'm about as romantic as a sea cucumber.
Please keep us posted on how it goes for you :) Hopefully you can help me out, and anyone else in this situation (and I'm sure there are plenty).
On a totally off-topic, unrelated side note, if I were acquainted with a certain Christopher Bingham, I totally would. Just throwing that out there.
Thanks for bothering to read this far into my ramblings,
Oli
I have been in a similar "anti-romantic and anti-relationship phase" for quite some time and I'm happy with it! I just know that at this point in my life that I'm not mature enough nor am I ready to commit to a relationship. I like keeping to myself and I'm not an extremely social person with people I am not acquainted with so I understand the being too scared to seek out a relationship. Just as long as you're happy things will work out in time!
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I tried the anti-romance stage but met some one who was too good to pass up and I don't regret that. I don't think there is a need to move away from that single freedom to mark yourself as looking for a relationship as some times you find some one wonderful and it just happens :).
ReplyDeleteI always tell myself I'm going to stay single, and then all of a sudden BAM relationship. And then I remember that I'm SO not ready for a relationship, panic,and then I'm too awkward to actually break up with them for a few weeks....or months....yeah....
ReplyDeleteI'm actually in (what I find to be) a wonderful relationship. I think it's the best kind of relationship, a nerdy relationship! We have many similar interests, we have wonderful conversations, he's so funny and sweet and...it's just great. It's also a wonderful feeling that both of us had never been in a previous relationship of any kind. For some reason, we're both bombarded with people that like us, but we pretty much block them out because we're in a committed relationship. Honestly, at first it was a bit awkward, but now given time, our relationship is going swell. So in my opinion, you shouldn't rely on other people to lead a happy life, but if someone makes you happy, then just accept it. :)
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